custom

wedding malay

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When a man who love someone,want to married with her beloved.

firstly,he should go to his beloved house investigate about his beloved either already taken by someone else or not.

If his beloved single,man's family can ask the shape of ring and if the girl's family agree,they decide the date of a proposal of marriage.when the day of a proposal marriage,half of man's family will came to beloved's house.At a same day,they will discuss about date of engagement,dowry,some of relatives will come that day.

Traditionally, the relatives of the young man approach the girl's parents and once an agreement is reached the betrothal ceremony will be performed. In fact two are performed, one at the man's house and one at the bride's.She receives at least a gold ring.Other presents like tepak sirih,kain sarung,bunga rampai and etc.

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Religious solemnisation of the marriage takes place on the wedding eve. Known as the Nikah ceremony rite is required by both the Islamic law and the civic law to legalise a Malay wedding.

The actual wedding days is called the bersanding . This litteraly means the "sitting together of the bride and bridegrooms of the bridal couch". Known as the pelamin (dais), this couch is the centrepiece of the whole ceremony, and two pelamin (dais) are required - one in the bride`s house and the other in the bridegroom`s. Bersanding ceremony customarily takes place in the afternoon, at the agreed time, the bridegroom is escorted in a procession with a hadrah or kompang band (male music group) to his bride`s house. On arrival, he has to pay a 'tax' in the form of money to the girl family`s before he enters each door leading to the pelamin (dais) to take his place besides his bride. The groom then sits with the bride on the 'pelamin' (dais).